Be kind to yourself before taking care of your partner’s needs… Love and kindness starts with you being kind and loving to you. Sometimes people take on projects and invest all their time, energy and resources in their partners because they don’t feel worthy or important enough to give love or attention to themselves. Sometimes… Read more
Do You Communicate with Kindness?
Before communicating with your romantic partner, make sure that you have considered the impact of your communication on the person you “love.” Some people are totally oblivious to the impact of their attitude, words and actions on others. Big mistake! Before communicating with your romantic partner, make sure that you have considered the impact of… Read more
Talk About It…
Talk about current upsets or problems. Time will resolve NOTHING. Only finding and addressing the root causes of the problems will help your relationship flourish and grow stronger. DO NOT point a finger at your partner and do not itemize what you have done right and she/he has done wrong… remain calm, affectionate and reasonable… Read more
Listen with Love
If you listen to your partner with love, there is always something in what they say that you can agree with. When your partner shares something with you, an opinion, idea or plan, do not start with saying “no” or telling them all that you disagree with them on. How about acknowledging them with saying… Read more
Show your Appreciation
Show your love to your partner, show your appreciation of who they are and what they do for you. Smile, touch, kiss. Send little text messages or call during the day to show that they are important to you and that you are there for them. If you do these things and they don’t, then… Read more
What is Clean Revenge?
I know of only one way to REVENGE our enemies and those who wish us ill without attracting undesirable consequences to our own lives. That REVENGE is clean and gives you the best feeling you could have ever imagined. Curious to know what it is? Look ahead rather than getting stuck in your past, don’t… Read more
‘Sameness’ is a Myth
‘Sameness’ is a myth: the idea that we are all the same and want the same things, that there is a certain RIGHT way to go about life and relationships. WRONG! There are only ways that work for you and those that do not work for you. That’s all. We are different, and like and… Read more
Communicate your Expectations
Communicate clearly with your prospective mates about what your expectations are and what you would be willing to invest or compromise in the relationship. Negotiate, but do not insist. Do not force them to fit your image of the ideal romantic partner for you. Keep communicating clearly without criticizing them or making them wrong for… Read more
Remove your Blinders
Let’s find out what covers your eyes to blind you from seeing the real person in front of you rather than the one you want her/him to be. Is it that you lose sight when someone flatters you, puts you down, makes you work hard to be seen, buys you gifts, takes you to nice… Read more
The Golden Key to Successful Relationships – Effective Communication
As far as I know, assumptions do not often lead to happy endings… effective communication of our wants, needs, and values have been known as the golden key to successful relationships by many researchers. Often times, we go along with our assumptions about our current or prospective romantic partner, and their values and expectations from… Read more